I think perhaps my biggest conundrum as a stay at home or work from home parent is what to do when the kids nap. Now, both my boys, one and four, go to daycare (or school as we call it) 3 times a week, so I do have some respite. But when they are home I have to consider what to accomplish during that 1-2 hrs when they are asleep.
People who say to sleep when your baby sleeps either haven’t raised a baby in ten years, or they are only repeating what they’ve heard a thousand times. This advice is the crappiest advice you can give someone with young children. Here’s what I think about when my kids sleep.
Should I spend this time cleaning the kitchen since the baby won’t be around to pull everything out of the dishwasher as soon as I put it in there?
I could vacuum while the baby isn’t around to try to sit on top of the thing, rather than being afraid of it like a normal child. No, too loud.
I could get some writing done without cartoons blaring in the background and the baby pounding on the keyboard so I have to backspace more than I actually type.
I could workout, bahahahahaha
Ok, I could fold some laundry while the baby isn’t here to unfold it as quickly as I fold it, and my preschooler isn’t here insisting I laugh as hard the hundredth time he puts his underwear on his head.
I could just sit here and stare at the wall and do absolutely nothing other than beat myself up for doing absolutely nothing.
Ooh, I could take a bath and maybe even have time to shave my legs! What’s the point?
By the time I consider all of my options, the kids are halfway through their naps, or at least the baby is. The four year old doesn’t nap anymore, but he’s at least semi self-sufficient, so I can get some stuff done.
The problem is, any one of the tasks I choose to do leave me feeling guilty for not accomplishing the other ones. I know I laughed at it above, but I usually end up working out. Hey, it gives me some tension relief to fold clothes while they are unfolded, load the dishwasher as it’s being unloaded, vacuum with toddling jockey on board, and though the stink has compounded due to the workout and no time to bathe, the day somehow feels more manageable.